Nursing At Sixteen Months, Feeling The Pressure!

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Where are my boobs??

Entering into the world of extended breastfeeding wasn’t as terrifying as you might imagine.

The little guy gradually started nursing less often, it became more about comfort and less about quantity. Nursing seemed confined to home, perhaps it was boredom feeding, more often than not it was me using my milk to get him to settle for sleep. We were rarely feeding on the run or while out and about because the world is so much more exciting to look at than the same old boobs!

At sixteen months old, breastfeeding a fully fledged toddler with twelve teeth and a few words in his vocabulary seems perfectly normal to both of us. To close friends and family, it isn’t that strange either, maybe just a little bit, but not strange enough for them to question me about my choice.

And then totally out of the blue, in the middle of a busy playgroup, he came running over to me and began tugging at my shirt. Of course without thinking, we started feeding perched on a windowsill. I looked out across the room to watch the other kids splattering shaving creme and glitter up the walls and all of a sudden…there they were

Two women, crossed arms, staring at me feeding my toddler!

Probably for the first time in my breastfeeding experience, I felt slightly awkward!

It occurred to me that they may find the whole scene slightly awkward…embarrassing…odd?!?

Anyway, not one to be deterred, I gave myself a quick reality check, flashed them a big smile and a giggle and carried on.

A recently published report came to mind, one stating that the confidence of a mother may affect breastfeeding success. The Journal of Advanced Nursing published a report that found that mothers who are more extroverted and less anxious are more likely to breastfeed and to continue to breastfeed than mothers who are introverted or anxious. (Source: Wiley)

So do you feel that a mums personality may go some way towards her breastfeeding success and longevity?

I certainly felt a fleeting pang of embarrassment, but another mum may have been totally mortified and quit breastfeeding then and there.

Generally, I feel inclined to disagree with the findings of the report, that less confident personality traits mean breastfeeding failure is imminent. Myself, the shyest, most private kind of mother, I became totally liberated by the experience of breastfeeding, and make a point of publicly feeding with the hope of inspiring another shy mum to do the same for her child.

I do agree that emotional stability is a more likely contributing factor, health professionals need to tune into all of these underlying personality traits in order to offer the best support and advice.

Let me know about your experience, are you shy, did it affect your confidence to breastfeed, did you lose all inhibitions to do what you felt had to be done?  I also did some research into the benefits of breast milk past one year which you can read here.


5 thoughts on “Nursing At Sixteen Months, Feeling The Pressure!

  1. moshe rafael and eliyafa

    I agree, I am a very shy person and in no way an exobitionist but I have super confidence when breastfeeding outside the home and as long as it is done tastefully (no flashing boobs) people can really think what they want. People may know I am breastfeeding but no one can see any part of it. It really all has to do with the mother’s attitude towards breastfeeding and her level of self confidence doing it. Unfortunately we live in a society were, for the majority of the population, womens breast are not seen for their true purpose…survival of the species. In saying all of that it is such an individual decision that every mother should make within her own comfort zone.

    1. wildandwisdom Post author

      I love it, super confidence! You are right, it certainly doesn’t have to be a big exhibition, it can be public and proud but also discreet, so mums can feed to the level at which they feel comfortable. Congratulations on your feeding milestones, and overcoming your shyness, to do what you think is best for your baby!

  2. Sixtine et Victoire

    I am a mother of two girls aged 2 and 7 months. I breastfed the first one only for a couple weeks and then pumped until she was about two months. With a lot of support, reading and preparation, I have been able to continue nursing my youngest up to this point and I am very proud about that – I have no problem breastfeeding with an audience but I always ask people if they mind me nursing in front of them. However, I didn’t know any breastfeeding mums when I was younger and it didn’t seem that common and I remember being very intrigued…and feeling awkward seeing a mom nursing her older child at a baby group. The little boy was over two years old and it seemed strange to me. I was 20 years old, and didn’t know any better. I can see how an “ignorant” person could feel awkward or embarrassed seeing someone nursing – not that it is acceptable, just that I was one of them before.
    I think you are a wonderful mom for nursing your baby up to now and I wish you all the best!

    1. wildandwisdom Post author

      Congratulations on your feeding successes. I can totally appreciate the struggles you can face in establishing breastfeeding and milk supply, which may be why that sense of pride is so strong when you do make it a success. Now you mention it, possibly I was like you as a young girl, you never really appreciate something until you are dealing with it first hand, breastfeeding is one of those things…Thank you for you comment and your kind words, love reading your posts too.

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